Common Fixes For Psychological Reversal in EFT Tapping

Psychological Reversal is simply an energy state where the person’s energy holds them back against progress in a particular direction.

The simplest way of dealing with reversal is already built into EFT. This is the Setup, where we tap on the Karate Chop (or rub the Sore Spot) whilst saying something like “Even though I have this problem, I deeply love and accept myself. For most things we are tapping on, this gets the reversal out of the way enough for one round of EFT to work, bringing down the intensity of emotion, pain, or craving.

There are times when this is not enough, and the intensity remains the same after one, two, or three rounds of tapping. One way to get around this is to shout out loud the “I DEEPLY LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF” part of the Setup statement, as we tap the Karate Chop (or rub the Sore Spot). This is likely to bring the SUDS or intensity down after a round of EFT. If you have neighbours that can hear and mind, you can shout this out loud in your mind.

Sometimes, shouting I LOVE MYSELF or I ACCEPT MYSELF may be very difficult to do, even when just doing it in your mind. It is a struggle for many tappers to buy into loving or accepting themselves. In that case, you can take a few steps back and work specifically on self-love and self-acceptance, leaving other issues aside for a while. Tap daily for about 10 minutes or more, without numbers, daily for a month, and see how you feel. One scrpt for this can be as follows.

“Even though I cannot love myself much right now, I respect my feelings anyway.”
“I cannot love myself much right now, bt I am willing to try.”

“Even though I cannot accept myself without judgement, I respect my feelings anyway.”
“I am willing to consider that I judge myself too harshly.”

“What if it is safe and OK for me to love myself and accept myself a little bit more today? I respect my feelings anyway.”
“What if it is safe and OK for me to love myself and accept myself a little bit more today?”

As well as statements you can say and how you say them, there are physical aspects that may be keeping you reversed. This can be true in many cases where you have been working for years on an issue such as addiction, anxiety, or depression, with no lasting result. This is where a physical intervention is needed. For example, a change in diet or exercise, rehab where you cannot partake in an addiction whilst your body has a chance to recover, or seeing a psychiatrist for advice on medication to keep you stable while you work on underlying issues. It is best to consult with a qualified expert nutritionist who specialises in your condition if you need to do the diet thing. And it is good to consult with a personal trainer for the exercise.

Finding Forgiveness When There Is No Forgetting

What does it really mean to forgive? Can you forgive without forgetting? How does it feel to forgive or be forgiven? Is it easier to forgive a physical pain incurred by another’s accidental actions than an emotional wound inflicted with intent? Does “sorry” from the offender require forgiveness from the offended? Does the offended require an apology in order to forgive the offender?

I have pondered the concept of forgiveness many times. I suspect most of us have. We have all been hurt and we have all been the cause of someone else’s pain.

While endeavoring to explore what forgiveness means and why it is considered so important to our mental health, I reflected upon some well known aphorisms.

“To err is human; to forgive divine.” (Alexander Pope)

“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us.” (Martin Luther King Jr.)

“I can forgive, but I cannot forget is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note-torn in two and burned up so that it never can be shown against one.” (Henry Ward Beecher)

“Without forgiveness there’s no future.” (Desmond Tutu)

Many religions encourage and even require forgiveness as an act of piety.

There is, in fact, no end to famous maxims encouraging us toward forgiveness. Is it really so easy? No, of course it isn’t, but it is possible and it is within our control.

There is a wide range of affronts, accidents, and human atrocities that have left small, large and inconceivable wounds upon individuals, groups and civilizations. There are monstrous acts of inhumanity that are beyond understanding and should never be forgiven or forgotten. There are simple oversights that are dismissed without hesitation. It is the “in betweens” that cause so much consternation. Particularly amongst family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors. This is the physical and emotional terrain where most of us live. It is where we react and over-react. It is where we experience our most raw feelings and where we can cause the most enduring sorrow. This is where forgiveness and acceptance become an integral part of our humanity and our mental health.

I do not believe that forgiveness requires forgetting. I do not believe it is always possible to forget. I do believe that the test of forgiveness lies within our emotional being. What does this mean? It means that if you think back on the incidence that initiated the pain and there is still hurt or anger that bubbles from within, you have not forgiven. We experience true forgiveness when the event ceases to trigger a negative emotional response.

Forgiving is the part of the equation that is within our control. We can not force someone to forgive us. We can extend the olive branch, ask for forgiveness, even offer compensation if appropriate. But we can not choose for someone else. We can, however heal, even without being granted forgiveness from whomever we have injured. It starts with forgiving ourselves. It may sound like a cliche, but it’s true. With or without forgiveness from another, we still need to let go of our own guilt. It is easier to do so if the person we have hurt accepts our apology, but either way we can use self forgiveness to heal and let go. We can incorporate the encounter into our being and allow it to influence our future choices of behavior.

When we hold on to anger or resentment, we unwittingly encourage the body’s stress response which can trigger a series of unhealthy physical reactions. Meditation, yoga, visualization, breathing exercises and prayer are all methods of coping with stress and reprogramming our responses to events we can not control or change.

What else can we do to help ourselves forgive or accept non forgiveness when it is wanted but not granted? First, don’t make assumptions about what someone else is thinking or feeling. Odds are you will be wrong or, at the very least, not completely right. Wrong assumptions generally lead to the perpetuation of bad feelings and interfere with the ability to heal. Second, do not reinforce the negative emotions by continuing to re-live the encounter through stories you tell yourself and others. Third, try treating forgiveness like any other behavior you would like to see extended to you and those around. Even if forgiving doesn’t come naturally, it can be a learned behavior. If you offer and practice forgiveness, others are more likely to accept and extend the same behavior. Finally, Decide that giving and accepting forgiveness is more important than who you believe is right or how the conflict was initiated. Even very old woulds can be healed through practicing genuine forgiveness. Remember, we are talking about the “in-betweens” here not monstrous acts of abuse that might fall into the category of atrocities. Forgiving and healing from the deep scarring of physical and emotional trauma is a subject and process that goes way beyond the scope of this article.

Fermented WHAT?

We are now in the fast lane to Fall and as we all know, with the cooler weather comes the dreaded Flu season. The kids are in school bringing home unwanted germs which can effect the entire house and knock you out of commission for a week or more. Well, what if I told you there is a great way to easily boost your immune system and get a step ahead of that unwanted house guest, without a flu shot that MAY or may not prevent the strain that is going around. One word – PROBIOTICS!

But not just any old probiotics. REAL probiotics that you can make at home for pennies. Probiotics that get to work right away balancing your gut, helping you absorb the good stuff in the food you eat, and give immediate results. If there were one health concern that requires serious attention right now, it would be a damaged digestive system. The “gateway to health” aka the gut has been seriously abused through antibiotics, prescription drugs, heavy metal intake, pesticides, fluoride intake, processed foods and a lack of fresh, organic produce containing beneficial enzymes and probiotics.

Fermented foods are AMAZING for probiotic health and easier to assimilate than any pill. Miso (fermented soy), Umeboshi paste (Japanese salt plums- DELICIOUS) and sauerkraut (fermented cabbage) added to your diet can take care of your gut, are easily absorbed by the body because they are already broken down, and help absorb the nutrients of the foods you consume.

This is where sauerkraut, the probiotic king, reigns supreme. Due to its nutrient- and digestive-friendly content, it is quite possibly the single most important thing you can do for your health regularly.

Some of the nutritious benefits of sauerkraut include:

• Vitamin B1, B6, B9, C and K

• Manganese, calcium, potassium, magnesium, phosphorus and iron

• A great source of dietary fiber

• An excellent source of antioxidants and phytonutrients

• Rich in indole-3-carbinol (a known cancer fighter and toxin remover)

Most importantly, sauerkraut is the superior source of LIVE probiotics and enzymes, and due to its pre-digested state brought on by the fermentation process, these nutrients are highly bioavailable to the body.

Why not just take a supplement pill?

Making sauerkraut is an age-old process that produces a taste profile that is considered unpalatable to many. It is a taste you have to get used to, I know. But what is better, eating something a bit sour or taking yukky cough medicine? The sour characteristics are noticeably different from the sugar addiction which society has grown accustomed to, and as a result most have opted for probiotic capsules in order to get the good bacteria without having to ingest what is typically a shunned food.

Unfortunately, the two formats are not comparable, and recent research has proved it.

A 4-6-ounce serving of homemade sauerkraut that was recently analyzed in a lab showed that it contained literally 10 trillion bacteria! To provide perspective, 2 ounces of raw sauerkraut made at home had more probiotics than a 100-count bottle of probiotic capsules. To look at it another way, 16 ounces (2 cups) of sauerkraut is equal to eight bottles of probiotics! Even one of the more popular and potent brands of probiotics “only” provide 50 billion active bacteria in a 3.5-ounce bottle.

To date, studies have only been done on the quantity, with current analysis now focusing on the different types of bacteria existing in fresh, raw sauerkraut.

When considering how big of a revelation this is for your health, keep in mind that, with each mouthful of raw homemade sauerkraut, you are consuming trillions of beneficial microbes, which kill pathogens in the gut and restore the beneficial flora that are the primary factors in good digestive health. This is easily one of the best and simplest things you can do for overall health. Much better than yogurt or capsules.

Sauerkraut is a fantastic way to add some flavor to your recipes, and is an important component to a healthy digestive system. The trick to a good sauerkraut is to make sure it is not pasteurized, so that all the beneficial enzymes and probiotics are largely intact. You make sure it is raw by making it yourself with my homemade sauerkraut recipe!

As a Holistic Health and Wellness Coach it is my mission to teach my clients simple and realistic ways to reach their health goals, like simply adding natural probiotics to their routine. What could be easier? And that is the key to losing weight, keeping it off and maintaining proper health. It HAS to be easy and feel natural. That is why crash and fad diets never work. You may get quick results but they are not sustainable. No one wants to be on a constant diet!

That is where I come in.

The Spiritual and Emotional Dimension of Human Parasites

Most people in the West believe that parasites are only a problem for people in Biafra, or other places where you can’t buy antibacterial soap on bulk special from Costco. But surprise!

Parasites are actually a huge problem for many people in the more ‘civilised’ bits of the world too, just usually, they are so under the radar for most people, they have no idea what’s really causing them their fatigue, stomach issues, hormonal imbalances, and potentially a huge range of other health issues, too.

A proper grasp of what’s really causing the problem is more than half the solution, so first, let’s dive into the human gut, and see what’ really going on in there.

Deep breath: Parasites are potentially everywhere

The first thing to tell you is that even with all the pesticides and antibacterial products flying around, our food is still covered in microscopic stuff that could theoretically turn into a full-blown parasite, when it grows up.

Pesticides only stop stuff being eaten by insects in the field, it doesn’t stop them laying their tiny eggs all over the place at any other point in the harvest-to-table process.

And you could also go all anal and start trying to peel everything that moves, but that’s still not going to eliminate the problem of all the parasite eggs you might be picking up from tying your shoes, not checking every single one of your rice grains and flax seeds, and shucking back that handful of peanuts at the local bar.

(OCD people, calm down: I’m about to tell you the good news.)

Short version of the long story: microscopic parasite eggs are potentially all over the place, and can’t really be avoided (although they can definitely be minimised with good hygiene habits, like washing your hands after going to the toilet and after touching your shoes, and checking your grains for insect infestation.)

So then, why does one person get a full-blown attach of parasites (aka intestinal worms) while another person doesn’t?

It all comes down to two things:

1) God decided to make it happen.

2) Some people’s gut and intestinal flora is in a bad way, and can’t kill the critters off, the way God designed it to do.

To get an idea of why God might send someone parasites, let me paraphrase an email someone recently sent me about their own experience with parasites:

“I had a horrible, draining relationship with a friend that was completely depleting my emotional energy. At the same time I decided to close that relationship down, a huge amount of the intestinal parasites I’d been battling for months left my body en masse.”

Dramatic as that particular example might be, God is always sending us hints about what we need to change or work on via our environment, experiences and health, and parasites are no exception.

If you’re being sucked-dry internally, chances are usually fairly high that there’s at least a couple of external ‘parasites’ doing exactly thing to you on the relationship front, and that’s something you need to start dealing with.